UPACARA PENGANTIN MAKAN NASI HADAP- HADAPAN SEBAGAI SYMBOL CINTA DAN RAHMAH DALAM ADAT MELAYU: ANALISIS TAFSIR AYAT- AYAT AL- QUR’AN TERHADAP KONSEP KASIH SAYANG
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Islamic Marriage, Malay Custom, Face to Face Rice Eating Tradition, Compassion, Qur’anic Exegesis.
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Marriage in Islam is a sacred institution aimed at forming a harmonious family grounded in the values of sakinah, mawaddah, and rahmah. In social practice, the implementation of marriage often interacts with customary traditions that develop within society as expressions of culture and local identity. One tradition that continues to be preserved in Malay customary weddings is the face-to-face rice-eating tradition, which carries symbolic meaning in shaping the relationship between husband and wife as well as strengthening ties between families. This article aims to analyze the symbolic meaning of the face-to-face rice-eating tradition and examine its relevance to the concept of compassion from a Qur’anic perspective. The study employs a qualitative method with a library research approach, using descriptive-analytical analysis of Qur’anic exegetical sources, particularly interpretations of QS. Ar-Rum: 21, QS. Maryam: 96, QS. Al-Mumtahanah: 7, QS. Al-Isra’: 24, and QS. Al-Balad: 17, as well as scholarly literature discussing Malay wedding customs. The findings indicate that the face-to-face rice-eating tradition embodies values of togetherness, cooperation, responsibility, empathy, and compassion that are consistent with the Islamic principles of mawaddah and rahmah. This tradition represents a form of local cultural effort to internalize Qur’anic values within family life. As long as it does not contradict Islamic creed and law, the tradition can be understood as a cultural expression that strengthens the formation of a sakinah family. Thus, custom and religion are not positioned in mutual negation, but rather complement and reinforce one another in fostering harmony within Muslim families.
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Ardiansyah, & Milhan. (2025). Hukum pelaksanaan tradisi makan hadap-hadapan adat Melayu. Jurnal Al-Sulthaniyah, 14(2), 539–540.
Firdaus, M. R., dkk. (2026). Integrasi prinsip sakinah–mawaddah–rahmah dalam pembinaan keluarga Muslim kontemporer: Kajian tematik Al-Qur’an terhadap fondasi ketahanan keluarga. Jurnal Ilmiah Nusantara (JINU), 3(1), 98.
Hasan. (2015). Nilai-nilai pendidikan akhlak dalam Al-Qur’an Surat Al-Balad ayat 10–17 (Skripsi sarjana). [Nama perguruan tinggi].
Ibn ‘Āsyūr, T. (t.t.). Al-Taḥrīr wa al-tanwīr (Juz 15). Tunis: Dār al-Tūnisiyyah.
Imamsyah, & Saputra, E. (2024). Tradisi nasi hadap-hadapan menurut pandangan hukum Islam di Desa Pantai Cermin Kanan, Serdang Bedagai. Thausiah: Jurnal Hukum, Pendidikan, dan Kemasyarakatan, 14(2), 218.
Mujtabid, & Assidiqi, A. H. (2023). Konsep persahabatan dengan non-Muslim dalam QS. Al-Mumtahanah ayat 7: Studi komparatif Tafsir Al-Misbah dan Kemenag RI. Al-Manar: Jurnal Kajian Al-Qur’an dan Hadis, 9(1), 43.
Ni‘Ami, M. F. (2022). Tafsir kontekstual tujuan pernikahan dalam Surat Ar-Rum ayat 21. Nizham, 9(1), 16.
Shihab, M. Q. (2002). Tafsir Al-Misbah (Vol. 7, hlm. 446–450). Tangerang: Lentera Hati.
Shihab, M. Q. (2002). Tafsir Al-Misbah (Vol. 14, hlm. 167). Tangerang: Lentera Hati.
Sofiawati, E., & Suhada, D. (2024). Nilai-nilai edukatif Al-Qur’an Surat Ar-Rum ayat 21 dalam membangun rumah tangga sakinah, mawaddah, wa rahmah: Kajian ilmu pendidikan Islam. Jurnal Masagi, 3(1), 7.
Suryani, A., & Kadi. (2020). Konsep sakinah mawaddah wa rahmah menurut M. Quraish Shihab dan relevansinya terhadap pendidikan anak dalam keluarga. MA’ALIM: Jurnal Pendidikan Islam, 1(1), 60.
Tarigan, R. S., dkk. (2022). Makna simbolik tradisi makan hadap-hadapan pada suku Melayu di Kota Binjai. Jurnal Pendidikan Tambusai, 6(2).
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Abstract
Marriage in Islam is a sacred institution aimed at forming a harmonious family grounded in the values of sakinah, mawaddah, and rahmah. In social practice, the implementation of marriage often interacts with customary traditions that develop within society as expressions of culture and local identity. One tradition that continues to be preserved in Malay customary weddings is the face-to-face rice-eating tradition, which carries symbolic meaning in shaping the relationship between husband and wife as well as strengthening ties between families. This article aims to analyze the symbolic meaning of the face-to-face rice-eating tradition and examine its relevance to the concept of compassion from a Qur’anic perspective. The study employs a qualitative method with a library research approach, using descriptive-analytical analysis of Qur’anic exegetical sources, particularly interpretations of QS. Ar-Rum: 21, QS. Maryam: 96, QS. Al-Mumtahanah: 7, QS. Al-Isra’: 24, and QS. Al-Balad: 17, as well as scholarly literature discussing Malay wedding customs. The findings indicate that the face-to-face rice-eating tradition embodies values of togetherness, cooperation, responsibility, empathy, and compassion that are consistent with the Islamic principles of mawaddah and rahmah. This tradition represents a form of local cultural effort to internalize Qur’anic values within family life. As long as it does not contradict Islamic creed and law, the tradition can be understood as a cultural expression that strengthens the formation of a sakinah family. Thus, custom and religion are not positioned in mutual negation, but rather complement and reinforce one another in fostering harmony within Muslim families.
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References
Ardiansyah, & Milhan. (2025). Hukum pelaksanaan tradisi makan hadap-hadapan adat Melayu. Jurnal Al-Sulthaniyah, 14(2), 539–540.
Firdaus, M. R., dkk. (2026). Integrasi prinsip sakinah–mawaddah–rahmah dalam pembinaan keluarga Muslim kontemporer: Kajian tematik Al-Qur’an terhadap fondasi ketahanan keluarga. Jurnal Ilmiah Nusantara (JINU), 3(1), 98.
Hasan. (2015). Nilai-nilai pendidikan akhlak dalam Al-Qur’an Surat Al-Balad ayat 10–17 (Skripsi sarjana). [Nama perguruan tinggi].
Ibn ‘Āsyūr, T. (t.t.). Al-Taḥrīr wa al-tanwīr (Juz 15). Tunis: Dār al-Tūnisiyyah.
Imamsyah, & Saputra, E. (2024). Tradisi nasi hadap-hadapan menurut pandangan hukum Islam di Desa Pantai Cermin Kanan, Serdang Bedagai. Thausiah: Jurnal Hukum, Pendidikan, dan Kemasyarakatan, 14(2), 218.
Mujtabid, & Assidiqi, A. H. (2023). Konsep persahabatan dengan non-Muslim dalam QS. Al-Mumtahanah ayat 7: Studi komparatif Tafsir Al-Misbah dan Kemenag RI. Al-Manar: Jurnal Kajian Al-Qur’an dan Hadis, 9(1), 43.
Ni‘Ami, M. F. (2022). Tafsir kontekstual tujuan pernikahan dalam Surat Ar-Rum ayat 21. Nizham, 9(1), 16.
Shihab, M. Q. (2002). Tafsir Al-Misbah (Vol. 7, hlm. 446–450). Tangerang: Lentera Hati.
Shihab, M. Q. (2002). Tafsir Al-Misbah (Vol. 14, hlm. 167). Tangerang: Lentera Hati.
Sofiawati, E., & Suhada, D. (2024). Nilai-nilai edukatif Al-Qur’an Surat Ar-Rum ayat 21 dalam membangun rumah tangga sakinah, mawaddah, wa rahmah: Kajian ilmu pendidikan Islam. Jurnal Masagi, 3(1), 7.
Suryani, A., & Kadi. (2020). Konsep sakinah mawaddah wa rahmah menurut M. Quraish Shihab dan relevansinya terhadap pendidikan anak dalam keluarga. MA’ALIM: Jurnal Pendidikan Islam, 1(1), 60.
Tarigan, R. S., dkk. (2022). Makna simbolik tradisi makan hadap-hadapan pada suku Melayu di Kota Binjai. Jurnal Pendidikan Tambusai, 6(2).